So my unpopular and most likely insulting opinion about online dating (which I'm unapologetic about)…
I actually don't know anything about the fresh hell of online dating because I've stayed away from all of it. It's for many, but it's certainly not for me and I don't think it would ever jive with me. Ansari impressively illustrates how fucked-up online dating is and how it’s a behemoth, billion-dollar thriving industry now, but there’s not nearly enough happy numbers to prove that it’s a super successful tool. So I agree with him on all his arguments. One part in the article where he’s a little generous though is the way he breaks down how Tinder is the closest thing to mimicking the in-real-life pick-up game. The thing to note is that Tinder, like its brother and sister apps, and all the online dating sites in the world, is still just a massive catalogue made for you, for your browsing pleasure, your specs, your wants, what you need, "find the PERFECT match for you, you deserve it! We don't know you at all, and we can't tell if you're a good person or you're actually rotten to the core, but YOU deserve love and happiness! You're ENTITLED!"...
…and ask anyone who personally knows me to confirm, but the absolute apex of my own beliefs on love and establishing any sort of meaningful romantic relationship is that I put myself second. I come second. I would put my partner first. And I only hope to find somebody who believes in this too.
That’s really the big reason why I won’t join the world of online dating, it’s so goddamn nauseatingly egocentric and makes people feel more self-important than they actually are.
So I'm going to continue to roam the earth alone like the Incredible Hulk and stranger-watch and I may or may not come across another stranger I accidentally connect with and end up loving, appreciating, honouring, and giving to. It’s a lonely journey, but I refuse to participate in the shitty world of selfish online dating.
And Aziz, if you're reading this: for the love of God, please fix and repair the dating and romance world faster.